ADD Family at a view - Hubby

I need to describe my family (the people that I will rant about) and since today is my 9th anniversary, I will begin with my Hubby.

ADD-Hubby is mid-40s, ex football player that still remembers when... I was not around him then and find it hard to believe the stories of how he used to be. We normally laugh at him or just pat him on the back as a way to appease him. Hubby is/was the best thing that ever happened to me. He is ex-Navy, so he really brought the discipline and structure to my life that I needed. It was hard at first, but has definitely paid off. My man is a provider in the truest form of the word. As a matter of fact, one of the things that I found sexy about him in the beginning was that during an argument, he would still cook dinner and pay bills.

I had 3 boys prior to our marriage, so I had heard men say "Fuck you and the kids, I'm out". My hubby was introducing me to a whole new world that I was not sure that I liked, because it meant I had to give up control. I was the momma and daddy for years. ADD moment - not about me, about hubby...my hubby is a minister, has 4 minister brothers and had a minister momma. So imagine me, foul mouth, 3 baby daddies, HUD living, welfare receiving...lets just say his mom was not my biggest fan.

Our meeting was like a fairytale. I was trying to change my life around and went to Church. I saw him and was still new at this changing thing...I heard that he was going to preach that night, so I returned...wow 2 church services in one day...my mom was so proud...unfortunately she did not know my motivation....ADD again sorry. After the evening service, I recognized one of his brothers from my previous partying lifestyle (he was partying too-pre-minister days) and called him outside to write my phone number down to pass along. As I'm writing, a deacon comes out to find me and pass me the number of the preacher...yeah he was checking for me too!!! We've been together ever since.

I love him more than he will ever know and thank God for him daily - even when I'm mad at him and not speaking. We are a team and have each others back. Unfortunately, when you are that close with a person, something gets lost or confused or pushed to the back and that would be our romance. I've read books about the 7 year itch, and why people cheat, blah, blah, blah, but this is some bullshit...nobody warned me that sex and best friends don't add up. How do people stay married for 40, 50, 60 years? Are they sexless, frustrated, horny?

No one in my family has had a marriage that lasted more than 20 years, so I have no one to ask. Even in the marriages that where 20 years, there was definitely some extra-marital stuff going on. I'm not one to cheat, even though my dreams could possibly be considered cheating, right? I will never physically cheat on my husband, I have way too much respect and love for him as a person.

ADD-HUBBY is one of a few. I appreciate a man being a man, being the head of the household (even though I am the puppet master), being a great role-model for my sons who all call him RD for real dad. My oldest son (23) said it best...Biological dad (FD/fake dad) taught me how to treat women like bitches and my RD taught me how to bitches like women....yeah I know sounds kinda like ghetto love, but hey it is what it is!

I have to stop saying that. Bottom line. ADD-hubby is the bomb, the man, my bookie, big beefy, lil pee-pee (in the am)...hahaha he would kill me if he knew about this....in the words of a comedic genius...John Witherspoon "Pops Williams" shhhhh.....don't tell nooooobody!

Have a great day!